betrayal trauma therapist

What does it mean to be a betrayal trauma informed therapist?

Written By Connie Zollner, PsyD, LMHC, CCPS-C

Choosing the right therapist after the discovery of infidelity or betrayal in a relationship is a crucial part of beginning your recovery journey. Not every professional is going to be the right fit. Finding someone who can guide you safely through this confusing time is an important step towards healing.

Although there are many therapists who are highly skillful and trained, finding one that is specifically informed on the nuances of infidelity and betrayal trauma treatment can be the best gift you can give yourself as you navigate the confusing emotions, trauma, and uncertainty you are facing.

Here are 7 things to look for as you choose the right therapist.

1. They list that they have betrayal trauma specific training from one of the three leading certification programs: The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS), the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals ( IITAP), or the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health (SASH).

2. They have training in one or more trauma therapy modalities. This could include, EMDR, brainspotting, or Emotional Transformation Therapy (ETT).

3. You feel understood, validated, and safe while speaking with them. They hold space for the ambiguity while you are in discernment about your relationship.

4. Self-disclosure or personal sharing on the part of the professional is limited or done only when it enhances your care.

5. Ensure the therapist you choose has availability to work with you consistently for an extended period of time.

6. They are willing to obtain a release of information and consult regularly with other relevant professionals involved in your care.

7. You feel hopeful and start to feel empowered when you speak with them.

The Betrayal Trauma Recovery Center values transparency, accountability, and ongoing training to ensure each clinician is up to date on emerging treatment trends and research. For more information, visit us at


One Comment

  1. Ginni Guest

    This program sounds great Connie! My counselor had a program that sound kind of like yours and it helped me immensely! I feel there are a lot of people out there who will benefit from it. 💞

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